Twins Take On… Being A Gentleman

The Alberti Twins | 25th February 2016

BeFunky CollageBeing A Gentleman Never Goes Out of Style…

A true gentleman is respectful to everyone in his orbit, from women he’d like to date to elderly people who need help with their groceries. He takes impeccable care of his appearance, is polite to everyone who deserves it, and is kind to women regardless of whether or not he thinks he has a chance with them. To be a true gentleman, you need to be self-aware, mature, and courteous. You can make a difference by making the effort to bring more respect and care into the world.

Being a gentleman is spending time with your family, being close and always having each others back. Family is everything and at the end of the day, all we need. Family Over Everything as we always say and it is so true.

When greeting a girl/woman kiss her on both cheeks, after all that’s why she has two cheeks. A kiss for each one 😉 It’s a polite and gentlemanly way to greet her and introduce yourself and trust us the girls love it. It’s the Italian way…

“A man who doesn’t spend time with his family can never be a real man.” Don Corleone 

Take every opportunity possible to show your lady how much you care about her. There is no such thing as being ‘too romantic’. Passion is everything, understand her mind and how she thinks and love her truly.

Being Italian, we invented romance, it’s in our blood. If there is one thing Italians can do, it is, make a girl weak at the knees and sweep her off her feet. We were brought up around fiery, strong Italian women and have experienced them all our lives. We know how a lady should be treated and we know what they want 😉

We were brought up gentleman and have always respected women, we know how amazing and beautiful they are and how much respect they deserve.

One thing that has been lost over recent years is being a gentleman. We are not sure when or how exactly it was lost, but it has happened and needs to be corrected. Treating a girl like a princess needs to be brought back into this generation.

‘You think you’ve seen her naked because she took her clothes off? Tell me about her dreams. Tell me what breaks her heart. What is she passionate about, and what makes cry? Tell me about her childhood. Better yet, tell me one story about her that you’re not in. 

You’ve seen her skin, and you’ve touched her body. But you still know as much about her as a book you once found, but never got around to opening.’

image4Girls want to be told they are beautiful, but more importantly they want you to make them feel beautiful. Take her on a date, dress to impress, flirt with her, make her feel wanted, make her feel beautiful.

Treat her right, show her respect and listen to her. When a woman is talking to you, listen to what she says with her eyes. Pay attention, take an interest, respond to what she is saying to you.

‘It’s a mans’ job to respect a woman, but it’s a woman’s job to give him something to respect.’

Real men never stop trying to show a girl how much she means to him, even after he has got her.

Also when you make a promise, KEEP IT. A lady doesn’t want to be messed about and relationships are based on trust. So when you say you are going to do something… DO IT.

This is a big one… When making plans, whether it is your first date or not, a girl doesn’t want to hear ‘I don’t know, whatever you want to do’ NO, NO, NO… NEVER EVER say this. A girl wants to hear ‘I’ve made plans for us!’ Be ready at 8.’ Take control, let her know she is going on a date with someone who knows what he wants and knows how to get it. You are the man, so take control and make the moves, call the shots and show her how much she means to you and that you have made an effort and made the plans.

If you’re asked which dress, which pair of jeans, or which pair of shoes looks better…have an actual opinion. “They both look the same” or “whatever you like” are not actual opinions. Likewise, if you’re asking someone on a date, have a destination in mind. Have a plan.

When you take her out choose a romantic restaurant or somewhere a bit different and she will appreciate that you have gone the extra mile. Get to know her, listen, find out what she likes and more importantly what she doesn’t like.

“A Man Seduces His Ladies’ Mind, Before He Touches Her Body.”

A lady always comes first… Put her needs before yours. Open the door for her, always, but be the gentleman that holds the door open for her, and smacks her arse as she walks in 😉 Keep it fun, fiery and passionate, show her who is the boss 😉 But remember she is your Queen, you should worship the ground she walks on. Attend to her every need and make her feel amazing. Likewise, you are her King and she should treat you as you treat her.

Always pull out her chair for her to sit down. Lots of compliments as well guys, show her that you have paid attention to her and compliment on her hair, what she is wearing, and make her feel a millions dollars.

This is a must. Remember a lady never pours her own wine or any drink for this matter, although the server/waiter should pour it, always pay attention, she will appreciate this. Even if you have to stop eating or get up to reach over to pour her wine, do it. She should never ever pour her own wine. Small gestures like this make all the difference.

At the end of the date, it doesn’t matter if it’s the first date or last, you as a gentleman should ALWAYS PAY!! The girl will always offer to pay as a polite gesture and sometimes a test 😉 but trust us they don’t want to and shouldn’t be paying, you don’t split the bill, you pay for it all. If she doesn’t offer to pay, then she is obviously used to being treated properly and being took out by gentlemen.

‘Women were made to be loved, not understood.’

We love women and respect them, we know the power they have, they run the world right? Look at her like she is magic and always respect her. Don’t be a push over though, girls like a man who knows what he wants. So just be yourself and you will win her heart. If not she’s not the one for you, don’t waste your time or hers and move on.

Take mental notes. Her likes. Her dislikes. Her shoe size. Her ring size. Her favourite colour. This information will prove useful and when it does – when you show up with a bundle of lavender flowers because you know it reminds her of her grandmother – it shows you care.

Being a Gentleman is not only about how you treat a lady it is how you carry yourself as a man. Walk with your head held high, shoulders back and always with confidence. Dress your best to feel your best. Let’s bring it back to the days were a suit isn’t just for special occasions. Always dress up, dress with pride. Treat people with respect and be kind and friendly. Respect your elders and spend time with your family.

‘A gentleman always gives up his seat’

Yes, on the subway. Yes, in a crowded room, anywhere in general, yes yes yes. If the train is full and a lady gets on, stand up and give her your seat. It doesn’t hurt, it costs you nothing and if a pregnant woman or elderly lady steps onto your train, your first instinct should be to immediately stand and offer your seat.

Always, always remember, lady on the inside when walking in the street, the man should always be on the outside nearest to the road… Always protect what you love.

Little, but important marriage Twins Tip (Twip)

When you are ready to make that commitment and pop the question… A gentleman always asks for her family’s blessing before proposing. This modern departure from asking her father for permission acknowledges the importance of her whole family: mum, dad, brothers, sisters, grandparents. It shows respect for her family: you are, after all, asking to join them.

Dear Men: You might think she wants your car, your money and your gifts. But the Right Woman wants your time, your love, your honesty, your effort, and you choosing her as your priority.

So here you have it… Twins Take on… Being a Gentleman. Let’s bring it back to the good old days of real love, romance and ladies and gentlemen…

“A gentleman knows when to call her sexy and when to let her know she’s beautiful.”

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