Twins Take On… Relationships & Love

“Unless it’s mad, passionate, extraordinary love, it’s a waste of your time. There are too many mediocre things in life; Love shouldn’t be one of them.”

Love is passion, obsession, someone you can’t live without right? We all want a love that is consuming, adventurous and even a little dangerous…

Here are a few tips on how to keep your relationships fresh, exciting and forever. We all get to a stage in the relationship where we question, worry and doubt everything and send ourselves crazy, this is just a natural feeling but if she or he is the one, then you should follow your heart and go with your gut instinct and fight for each other, and never give up. There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved. You can have the fairytale like you see in the movies, and here’s how…

Make An Effort…

One of the things that makes a new relationship so exciting is that “new relationship energy”. Everything is new and amazing and everything about our partner is fascinating. But what’s even more intoxicating is that with a new partner, we start to see ourselves through their eyes; in many ways, we see ourselves the way we wish we could be seen. It’s an electrifying experience and it inspires us to try even harder. We put more effort in our appearance, we plan more elaborate and exciting dates. We give them little gifts just because we want to see them smile. You have to keep this up, yes it may not be easy at times, but you have to make time, keep it new, fresh and exciting. Listen to her, find out what makes her tick, what turns her on and more importantly what doesn’t. Romance her, play her favourite song, cook her favourite meal, dance with her, play her favourite movie, touch her, caress her, kiss her, be affectionate, play with her hair and most importantly love her.

“Treat her like you’re still trying to win her and that’s how you’ll never lose her”

You have to make a real effort to look good for each other, even when you’re planning a quiet night at home, watching the best comedies Netflix has to offer. Still treat your relationship as though you were on the first date – make each other feel amazing and bring the best out in each other. This actually makes you happier with one another than if you let things slide; the opportunity to show off has actually been proven to make us feel better about ourselves. By simply making an effort, it makes you feel better and keeps the magic alive in the relationship. Always remember to treat each other with respect and remember why you fell in love with each other in the first place.

“Enjoy the little things in Life, for someday you will realise they were the big things”

Take pleasure even in the little things that help keep you together. Those little gestures of affection – tiny signs that you still care for one another – take little effort but offer incredible payoffs in terms of keeping the intimacy and devotion front and centre in your relationship. Take time to yourselves, don’t miss an opportunity to remind one another of just what it was that brought you together in the first place.

Stay in communication. Listen to one another. Share your dreams and concerns with one another. Take care of one another, making each other’s well-being a priority.

“They told me that to make her fall in love, I had to make her laugh. But every time she laughs, I’m the one who falls in love.” 

Fall in love with her laugh, fall in love with her smile and her eyes, look how her eyes light up when she laughs. Be present and enjoy every single moment.

You’re A Team…

One of the keys of any happy relationship is very simple: You’re in this together. Yeah, it’s important to have some time to yourself – in fact, getting some space could very well be part of what keeps the spark alive in your relationship – but at the end of the day, a relationship is about “we”, not “me” or “I”. Yes, you’re individuals, but the point of a relationship is that you’re stronger and better together than you are separately. That means taking equal responsibility in the relationship. This doesn’t necessarily mean splitting the chores down the middle and making sure everything is shared 50/50, but it does mean shouldering equal levels of the work to keep the relationship together.

And when trouble strikes, don’t stop and blame or criticise one another; drop everything and face it together. You are a team and you come as one. Understand to your core that together there’s nothing that you can’t overcome. Real men never stop trying to show a girl how much she means to him, even after he’s got her.

“Take a lover who looks at you like maybe you are magic”

“Love is when someone else’s happiness is your happiness.”

You may be knocked down. You may struggle. You may argue and fight like hell… but at the end of the night, your story is one of overcoming difficulty and being all the stronger for it. Those fights reinforce your commitment to one another. Those hard times are the fires that keep the love burning inside each of you. Your shared love for one another, your mutual goals and values help you steer through the storm and come out triumphant on the other side. Remember you have each other, so protect, cherish, and love each other, this is your journey, your story, be positive and focus on the good things about each other.

Yes, people may look at you oddly, – a pair of grown adults carrying on like teenagers, but who cares. That’s part of what makes it work. Throw off society’s rules and expectations about what a long-term relationship is “supposed” to be and make your own rules.

“If you ever fall in Love… Fall in love with someone who wants to know your favourite colour and just how you like your coffee. Fall in love with someone who loves the way you laugh and would absolutely do anything to hear it. Fall in love with someone who puts their head on your chest just to hear your heart beat. Fall in love with someone who kisses you in public and is proud to show you off to anyone they know. Fall in love with someone who makes you question why you were afraid to fall in love in the first place. Fall in love with someone who would never want to hurt you. Fall in love with someone who falls in love with your flaws and think you’re perfect just the way you are. Fall in love with someone who thinks that you’re the one they would love to wake up to each day.”

And after decades together, you can still be totally, madly, passionately in love with one another.

We rarely see a celebration of an old love – one that has withstood the test of time and has only been made stronger. So don’t give up at the first hurdle because you might just be missing out on the most amazing adventure and love of your life…

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