Don’t Let Anybody Dull Your Sparkle!
| 20th January 2016
Relationships can be testing at any time of the year, in January many couples start to think about what changes they would like in their relationship which can cause arguments if your not singing from the same hymn sheet. So what can we do to make sure that our relationships stay strong and keep blossoming, so that we grow together and not apart. Try as least 5 of my top tips.
1. Make a list of the 3 things you’re most passionate about and where you invest most of your free time, If your partner is not number one on that list, then consider what steps you might take to make sure she/he is.
2. Talk openly about your finances, your work concerns, health etc. Nobody likes to feel something is being kept from them and the likelihood is if you are keeping secrets they will already be sensing it which will put a strain on the trust elements of your relationship.
3. Every day, do a “random act of kindness”.: It doesn’t have to be extravagant or cost the earth, what matters is you thought of that and it’s come from the heart.
4. Find some creative ways to tell your partner how much you love them, never assume they know. Even if they do, hearing it from you will be a welcomed gesture and also it will encourage them to express love more often too.
5. Be positive! It might sound simple but you’d be surprised how many people treat their partners like squabbling siblings instead of their loved one that they want to spend the rest of their life with. Take a look at your interactions with each other, what percentage is confrontational? How often are you fighting? Are you just joking or are they really sly digs? It’s time to make a conscious effort to be positive, intimate, kind.
6. Take a look at your social media usage, what does it say about your priorities in terms of relationships? Are you always head down on your phone or do you get lost in your laptop? Whether you’re spending time on apps and games or getting lost in a world of Facebook it’s time to log off and spend time with the only person who keeps you warm at night, never take them for granted.
7. If you feel out of your depth but are desperate to try and save your relationship, Maybe consider counselling together to try and work through the issues. If one of you needs more support than the other you could try something like Reiki healing which helps clear the mind & release stress so you can function better.
Sometimes it can seem difficult to see the wood for the trees but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel, if you really want something to work you’ve got to fight for it. Put in the effort and you’ll see the results as having a positive relationship not only affects you and your partner but all your family and friends around you who care. Good luck and keep smiling.
Suzanne Elizabeth The Self Love Coach
