The confidence trick – the new force in life coaching helping women to career ahead
| 12th May 2020
She-Force is the new secret weapon for women looking for a way to move forward with success, happiness and fulfilment.
Launched by Nadia O’Boye, who is a trained life coach with a degree in psychology, it aims to help women take control of their work and life by using techniques that can retrain your brain.
VIVA caught up with 30-year-old Nadia to find out she is helping people in their careers and finances during lockdown.
What is life coaching?
Life coaching is future-focused and aims to give people clarity to overcome their issues and figure out the best path forward. It is based on the principle that you have the answers within you and it is a life coaches job to pull these out of you. It is not about telling people what to do but helping them to address issues such as anxiety or confidence and deal with them.
I ask big powerful questions that dig deep and techniques such as CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) that can retrain and rewire the brain.
How does that work?
You can change the way you think and importantly the way you react. I have been working in personal development globally for the last decade and have a toolkit of techniques that can get people out of the cycle they are stuck in.
Techniques such as turning your biggest fears into more neutral alternatives over and over again so you can move forward.
Why do you work with just women?
I am a young woman and I just started to attract clients who were like me and who I had a natural empathy with. It just made sense to specialise in this area and focus on helping them and that was how She-Force was born.
It’s stands for the power that all women have inside themselves to make sure they are happy, fulfilled, and successful. No matter what life throws at you, tapping into your She-Force can help you resolve, address and eliminate any issues or problems you might have and avoid them having a huge negative impact on their lives.
It is about taking control of your life by using your mind to your advantage and training yourself to overcome and enable you to keep moving towards what you want.
What is the most common issue you come across?
It is astonishing that 90% of the issues that come to me boil down to confidence in women. There is a huge lack of confidence.
I have worked with numerous women, addressing issues such as confidence and anxiety to help them move forward in their personal and professional lives.
What is the biggest life lesson you have learned?
Know your worth.
The confidence trick – the new force in life coaching helping women to career ahead
Nadia’s tips to keep your career on track and tackle issues while in lockdown
- Assess the real options and resources around you
We often live life in tunnel vision and when something happens to threaten our normality, we go into meltdown. Imagine looking down at your life from above and try some big sky thinking. Write down all the options and resources available to you to get more work, manage finances etc.
Don’t worry about if they are realistic ideas or not and keep going until you cannot think of anymore, you will eventually hit onto something that you can try. This approach allows you to see things from a different perspective and investigate alternatives that you may not have thought of before.
- Filter out
When things in our lives change dramatically, we need to change other things in our life to manage the conflict. If work and finances have been dramatically changed by COVID, it is time to review what is actually going out. Is there anything that you can do without? Is there anything you can reduce? Can you make savings anywhere? Write everything down or get a spreadsheet going. Getting everything out of your mind and in front of you can instantly reduce anxiety and often help you realise things are not as bad as they seemed in your head.
- Prepare for the end
If lockdown has you feeling helpless and stuck, remember that this is not going to last forever. If you could transport yourself to when lockdown is over, what do you wish you spent this time doing? How can you prepare for the end of all this? What can you do now to get you in the best position for when this is over? Having a plan and taking back a bit of control will help reduce the anxiety you might be feeling.
- Be grateful
When anxiety hits, the brain can only focus on the negative and the worst-case scenario. It is easy to forget the good things we have when we are in this state. Give yourself a set time each day to remember what is good and what you are grateful for. Not everything is bad, although it might feel like it, and you just need the space to re-focus your mind on some of the positive things too. Doing this also gets you in a better frame of mind to be able to employ some of the techniques above.
- Worst Case Scenario
Sometimes thinking of the worst-case scenario can highlight that our current reality is not so bad. Sit down and think of the absolute worst-case scenario, then compare this with your current situation. Hopefully, it makes you see that things aren’t so bad. Also, if you can develop a plan if the worst-case scenario were to happen, you immediately know that if this did occur, you are prepared. It decreases the anxiety you may feel because you know exactly how you would handle the situation.
- Face the problem
If you are dealing with work or money issues, it is important not to bury your head in the sand. This can make you feel as if you are dealing with this alone and can amplify the situation in your mind. Keep talking to people and share your problems with those that you trust. They may be going through similar things, which will normalise how you are feeling and instantly make you feel stronger. They also may have ideas and options that you can investigate, things that you might not have thought of yourself.
To find out more visit www.she-force.com.